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sure to destroy the unity of aim and interest which
ought to characterize husband and wife, as the heads
of a family; for the wife having cause to dread, from
the commencement, that at some future time her husband
may take it into his head, in some evil hour, to divorce
her, her aim will naturally be, instead of devoting
herself to promote the general prosperity of the family,
to secure for herself a separate portion, at the expense
of her husband, so that, in case of divorce, she may
not be destitute. The husband, knowing this, will probably
be disposed to withhold from her that confidence and
share in the management of the household which he would
gladly accord if he were sure that she had no interests
apart from his own. It is not uncommon to hear a Muhammadan
ascribe want of success in advancing the interests of
his family to the circumstance that his wife, instead
of seconding his endeavours, only seeks to obtain as
much of his income as she can for herself and her relatives.
Wherever such is the case, there is an end of a family
union and healthy family life.
The laws and practice in question also exercise an
injurious influence on the welfare of children. The
mother is greatly tempted to spoil them by over-indulgence,
from a mistaken hope of thus gaining and securing their
affections so effectually as to retain them even in
case of separation by divorce. The father likewise inflicts
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upon his own children by divorcing their mother.
For as thenceforth he is not only indifferent, but hostile
to her, and she can no longer visit his house, his children
are deprived of their mother almost as entirely as if
she were dead. They may indeed, now and then, find an
opportunity of visiting her, but in most cases this
is not approved of, perhaps even prohibited by the father,
and the whole spirit of his house tends to alienate
them from her who gave them birth. Thus the practice
of divorce, where there are children, strongly tends
to deaden the tenderest feelings and strongest instincts
that God has implanted in the human heart, namely, those
that form the maternal and filial bond.
Another evil result of the unlimited authorization
of divorce is the strong ground thus afforded for feelings
of jealousy between the married parties, and the moral
impossibility of the natural and free intercourse between
the two sexes, which proves such an advantage to society
in general where Christian principles prevail. Whilst
in well-regulated Christian society husband and wife
are perfectly sure of one another, from the fact that,
so long as there is no criminal cause, divorce is an
impossibility, married Muhammadans, especially the wives,
must be greatly susceptible of jealous surmisings, or
disquieting apprehensions, because they are never sure
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