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conjugal affections, or any other incidental occurrence,
may not be the first symptom of an impending divorce.
Among Christians every married man knows that he can
neither add a wife to the one he has, nor exchange her
for another, as the Muslims can; and therefore his relation
to the female sex in general assumes much of the purity
and sacredness of the relationship between brothers
and sisters, so that he can have social intercourse
with womankind in general, and benefit by their keener
observation, their kindlier sympathy, their more refined
manners and tastes, with almost the same propriety and
freedom he enjoys in conversing with his sisters or
with individuals of his own sex. Every married Muhammadan,
on the other hand, knows that the fact of his having
a wife by no means precludes the possibility of his
courting and marrying another, either in addition to
the one he has, or after having sent her away. Every
Muslim is also aware that the fact of a woman being
married does not absolutely prevent her from becoming
his wife; for it is possible that he may induce her
husband, either by bribery or intimidation, to divorce
her; or, the married woman herself; if bent on getting
free from her husband, so annoy and irritate him as
to bring about a divorce, enabling her to become another
man's wife. As every Muhammadan husband and wife are
led by their religion to look upon the tie of matrimony
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convenient and pleasant to dissolve it, the fact
of being married does not debar a Musalman from seeking
another wife, perhaps even amongst those who are already
provided with a husband, but who may be rendered eligible
by means of divorce; nor does it prevent a Muslim woman
from seeking to win the affections of another man, in
the hope that a divorce may enable her to become his
wife. The consequence of this is, that in order to save
matrimony from becoming practically altogether useless,
and sinking down to the level of lawless concubinage,
the custom has become necessary among the Muhammadans
of most rigidly separating even the married portion
of the two sexes, and completely preventing any friendly
intercourse between them, so that general society has
altogether ceased to consist of men and women, as God
originally designed it, and as it still is among Christians,
and has been reduced to a company of men only, whilst
the poor women are kept shut up in harems, and not permitted
to appear out of doors without carefully hiding their
faces. This unnatural exclusion of the female sex from
society, rendered necessary by the unlimited license
of divorce, cannot but prove a great evil, inasmuch
as if deprives the society of men not only of a highly
agreeable, but also of a most refining element, and
inasmuch as it confines one half, and this the more
sociable half, of mankind to the bleak monotony of harem-life,
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