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the loftier sphere, the wider horizon, and the more
intellectual tone of the society of men. By stopping
the excessive facility of divorce, the unsightly and
ghastly covering of the face could be safely dispensed
with, and womankind restored to society, both to their
own inestimable benefit, and that of the stronger sex.
It may also be worth mentioning that, as an indirect
result of the facility of divorce, and of the complete
separation of the sexes, the strange custom has become
universally prevalent, that parties entering on the
married state are not allowed to have any personal or
friendly intercourse, but must individually remain strangers
to each other up to the day of marriage. The only way
in which they can hear or know any thing of each other
before marriage, is through the medium of near relatives
and friends. It is therefore impossible to judge for
themselves whether their characters and tempers, their
habits and tastes, their principles and views of life,
or even their personal appearance, are likely to coalesce
and prove mutually agreeable. Whilst no man willingly
buys a house or horse, without first seeing them for
himself, and no woman thinks of purchasing an article
of dress or ornament, without first looking at it, yet
so great is the tyranny of Muhammadan custom as to require
that two persons going to marry shall have no acquaintance
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on the information and judgement of others. It cannot
be wondered at, therefore, that cases are not rare in
which two persons, utterly unacquainted with each other,
join in marriage but find out directly afterwards that
their characters, tastes and views of life are so uncongenial,
or even the personal appearance is so different from
what had been expected, that a dissolution of the marriage
union is sought almost from the very day they have come
together. It is even said, that sometimes, especially
in large towns, unprincipled girls induce men to marry
them, simply for the sake of the sum of money to be
settled upon them in the marriage-contract, and with
the intention, from the very first, of so annoying and
troubling their husband as to force him to divorce them.
Thus we see that the excessive facility of divorce leads
to levity in marrying; and marrying without that mutual
esteem and love which can flow only from knowledge and
sympathy, leads again to a .deplorable increase of divorces.
Every one must acknowledge that such a state of things
cannot but act most injuriously on society in general,
and the, well-being of individuals in particular.
It is now abundantly evident that the Qur'an, instead
of further developing the true religion in regard to
matrimony and divorce, stops even far short of the teaching
of the gospel and the Mosaic law on the subject. But
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